What would you do in this situation?

[ATL_Predator+ 1,196]

I have this coworker of mine (Pat) and he has had his own apartment for about a year. He was living with one of my other coworkers (Tim) and about 4 months in... Tim moves out... moves back home with his parents and leaves my buddy no notice or anything at all. So, Pat has to pay full rent plus utilities for a 2 person apartment as one.

 

Pat posted a CL ad looking for another roommate and has gotten no response for a few months... til yesterday. It's a really hot girl who is an army recruiter, and she said she would def move in because she just got a job in the area.. however... he is dating a girl (Courtney) at work who is an absolute fucking psycho. She's fucked numerous other coworkers and treats him like shit, and for some reason he keeps going back to her. He needs the money and is hesitant about letting this girl move in with him because she is the jealous type. I'll post this in a thread but just wanted to share here. What would you do?

 

Keep in mind this girl has fucked numerous men, WHILE they were dating... and as it stands now they are both single... but she keeps stringing him a long like they are. She gets pissed when he hangs out with girls that are his friends but she Blatantly goes out with other guys drinking and says that they are just 'friends'.

 

Christmas day last year he showed up to her house with gifts for her son and she saw he liked some random girls fb pic and she literally took all the gifts and threw them in the snow in front of her son and said for Pat never to come back.

 

Now. He says he loves her, but he constantly is a wreck, he has been in the hospital for many suicidal thoughts and other depression issues.

 

I think the answer is simple, but I can't grasp why people willingly put themselves in an emotionally abusive relationship. I'll never get it.

 

If you are the type that wants visuals.... here's his choices...

 

 

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Hot new girl ^^

 

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Crazy psycho ex^

Edited April 6, 2017 by MackAttack

[oochymp 2,393]

Where's the conflict? He needs someone to help him out with rent and he has someone with a good job who wants to move in and help him with rent. Just because it's a girl moving in with a guy doesn't mean it's anything other than a housing arrangement. I mean, I guess it's Craigslist, so maybe sex is implied, but I doubt he put anything other than housing in his ad.

[Barracuda 629]

um...pull himself together and cut the butterball loose?

[blotsfan 2,112]

I mean it's obvious what the correct thing to do is, but it's hard to think rational about that kind of stuff. Incidentally, forgetting that she's crazy, I don't think it's unreasonable to not want the person you're dating to live with another woman. That's really not the issue here though.

[Bucman 891]

This is pretty easy. Tell that fat ass bitch to take a hike

[BwareDWare94 723]

Truthfully, everybody is a little crazy, but the ones who are openly crazy aren't worth the hassle. That being said, once you date/get to know someone over a span of months/years, you inherently start to understand what has caused them to be the way they are and you become more empathetic than perhaps you should be. If she sleeps around, though, he's got to stand up for himself and move on regardless of whether or not this other girl moves in. That, and jealousy just isn't OK. No level of jealousy is conducive to a healthy relationship. To get jealous is to admit to yourself that you don't trust your partner. Fuck, I had a girl go absolutely crazy (on the inside, without telling me) because a couple of my female friends like to give me hugs. Oh no, that's so bad and inappropriate (lol). Back to the ranch, yeah this is a pretty cut and dried situation. Move on from the emotional abuser. Just looking at her you can see her abusive nature stems from severe insecurity. Why do people sleep around? Because they always convince themselves they're not worthwhile and need to feel wanted 24/7.

[ATL_Predator+ 1,196]

Your guys input is all what I think and agree with.

 

He decided to take a third shift opening to work with her in the same shift... and he also decided to turn away that girl..

 

I simply don't understand..

[BwareDWare94 723]

Sounds to me like it's time to stop bugging him about her issues and start bugging him about facing his own. If he was in the right place, emotionally and mentally, he wouldn't have made these decisions. It's no longer her problems that are the problem, but his. What she's done is truly horrible, but she'll get to keep doing those things if he doesn't address himself. If you get him to look in the mirror, this situation will resolve itself before you know it.