If it is internal hit the particulars. Ask them how long have they felt that way and how they feel about their own feelings. Make sure they know it is a serious conversation so they should be clear about how they feel, but make sure they know I love them. Tell them it is ok to feel that way, but to be clear so we can start to change a few things if they choose. If they are saying how they feel as though they are born in the wrong gender, and they are clear on gender and that they want to change, I let them. I would ask if there are things we can change in the household to make them more comfortable.
If it is within reason do my best to accommodate that and let them live life as a man/woman, but make sure it is a genuine experience. If they choose male then make them do things required of men like register for the secret service, go to make restrooms etc so they can see the good and bad of both.
I would proceed like that but if they wanted puberty blockers or any surgery I personally would not foot the bill until roughly 26. If they have left my house and lived life as a man and at 26 said" hey Dad, I have lived this life and my mind is developed and this is still what I want but I can't afford it, can you help with the cost of transitioning?" Then the answer is, Sure! I love you kid.
I have no problem with transgender as long as they are morally upright people, and honest with themselves, and aren't entitled than we won't have issues. As long as they don't allow it to become all that they are. If the sum total of who they are is Transgender then I fucked the dog. I would hope that would be but a fraction of them. I would hope they could say they were people of integrity, hard working, and loved fiercely. I guess I am saying if they could look themselves in the mirror and be proud of who they are I am good with it.
As to the semantics I did not see it that way, I saw it as a clear statement and I don't want it to come on as a dick, if I did I apologize OSU, that is not what I intended.
Edited by Omerta, 14 July 2018 - 10:56 PM.