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    I could use some advice.

    I find that family businesses tend to unravel fast, so unless you're quite certain this place you're currently working will be there 10 years from now, I'm thinking you should consider moving on simply because you can't be positive that they won't mismanage money and fold at a moment's notice. Quite honestly, Zack, you have all these options but your gut instinct is telling you something and you should listen to it. If you can have these kinds of options now, you can have these kinds of options later if what you choose now doesn't pan out. I've got more to add but have to go for the moment.
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    What are we motivated by?

    ADHD drugs are a whole other can of worms. You want to talk about over-prescribed? Damn are they ever. Children are not supposed to be as docile and quiet as house plants. Why our society wants them this way is beyond understanding.
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    What are we motivated by?

    Maybe I'm being naive, but I don't truly believe there's some grand conspiracy by the wealthy to keep us all in line. I think there are some wealthy people who take advantage of their influence, but are we really going to move forward believing in an Us vs. Them mentality? There's no fruit to be had with that perspective.
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    What are we motivated by?

    The thing about social hierarchies is that they're mostly natural reactions to the current environment. In this Instagram environment, everybody displays their high points constantly, which gives lazy scroll-the-internet types the idea that a constantly happy life is possible, and that some people have it while they don't. That being said, the real question is how we've become such a gullible collection of sheeple. I personally recommend at the very least blocking social media on personal phones. This allows the individual to focus directly on life.
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    What are we motivated by?

    When someone needs help beyond what they can do for themselves, you can either say it to them or stay silent and regret it. And staying silent is pretty much enabling them to continue doing what isn't working. Anybody else sick of this current movement saying it's everybosy else's responsibility to reach out to hurting people? We've been reaching out for years...
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    What are we motivated by?

    One of the hardest things in life might be a family member or friend's refusal to seek needed treatment for trauma-induced mental health issues or personality disorders. One of my good friends was abandoned by a parent and severely abused by the present parent as a child and that trauma is destroying this person's ability to have a normal life whatsoever. Many of their friends are shady manipulators. They never pick good partners (in their defense, there, they do stay single for the most part. Just fails terribly at picking partners when they do). They're making progress toward healing on their own (this person is kinder every time we reconnect after periods of doing our own thing) but stays in a pattern of severe drop, then mania as they come back up, and then they spend time somewhat level. Rinse and repeat It is the most difficult thing to observe in any friend I've ever had. I've seen other cases but never so severe. So I consistently push treatment and therapy. But this person is 100% responsible for their refusal to seek further treatment. There are mental health things that human beings simply need therapy and medication for. Period. End of story. So on the topic of motivation--why are we not motivated by feeling better at younger ages? I've begun to think that true maturity begins when one realizes that they absolutely have to take care of themselves first and foremost.
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    What are we motivated by?

    On the topic of personal responsibility for mental health--I think it ties in more with their everyday actions. Sometimes poor mental health is paired with really destructive decision-making. The individual is still responsible for making better decisions. Mental health is not an excuse and shouldn't be looked at as one. They still know right and wrong. I agree with sean, real mental illness is generally caused by some form of trauma.
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    Gun Control Poll

    1. We literally push people to a) think in partisan terms politically=never happy b) run away from the idea of healthy, committed relationships= never happy c) choose to feel like a victim for our misfortunes when they're brought on by our own personal failings= never happy. Essentially, we no longer push personal accountability. 2. Traditional family values are the nuclear family. Mother and father married, raising the children. Nearly every single mass shooter was fatherless. That's caused by 2 things--shitty men, and women who choose shitty partners. Raise your sons to be good men, raise your daughters to desire good men. It's really that simple. It shouldn't take til after 25 or 30 for a woman to realize she probably shouldn't fuck somebody who wouldn't make a good father or partner, and it shouldn't take til 25 or 30 for a man to grow the fuck up and realize that there's more to life than having as much meaningless sex as possible. 3. Do I really have to explain how we're moving away from living with a moral compass? Look around. Listen to the news. I'm much, much more well-spoken than some overweight slob on Fox News blabbing on about the good old days. I don't care about reverting back to anything other than teaching young people what really leads to happiness, and that is purpose. And the simplest way to have purpose is to have a family. Most people won't get to work in a field that they love, so they should worry more about a healthy, stable home life than anything.
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    Gun Control Poll

    We continue to move further and further away from living with any kind of moral compass. We celebrate life choices that lead directly to individual misery. We push people further and further away from traditional family values, resulting in many lonely people. Without a moral compass, without a direct greater purpose, anger and bitterness and other bad things fester and evolve and then monsters are born. In the United States, we've lost sight of the true causes of individual freedom, which are things that develop emotional stability. Committed healthy relationships, genuine friendships, selfless kindness. Etc. Without these things, most individuals begin a descent into bitterness.
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    Gun Control Poll

    1. Obviously no. There's no need to expand on this answer. 2. It's more nuanced because it clearly wouldn't end at assault weapons. It'd just be a starting point, especially when mass shootings continued to happen. 3. Obviously yes. There's no need to expand on this answer. 4. Unequivocally yes. And for that matter, family should be able to place grown adults in mental health facilities without their consent, too. 5. Obviously no. There's no need to expand on this answer. 6. It's more nuanced because it clearly wouldn't end at high-capacity magazines. It'd just be a starting point, especially when mass shootings continued to happen. 7. It's a factor, but not a major factor. I believe there are truly bad people in this world, and I refuse to associate henious violence with the vast majority of non-violent mental illness sufferers. 8. Violent media is a factor, but not a major factor. It's more to do with clickbait media, reliance on social media and technology, and forgetting what reality actually is. 9. It's a factor, but not a major factor. Unless part of ease-of-access is the failure to enforce already existing laws 10. It's a factor, but not a major factor. The cause of violence is our continued descent into depravity.
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    What are we motivated by?

    Starting to see a counselor regularly, which the priest knows about. Also, I asked for a prayer suggestion for horrific anxiety/overthinking onset and that's what he suggested. Don't be so quick to say religion can't provide that kind of help. It's worked to pray in desperation for me. I did it regularly 6-8 times a day for 2 to 3 weeks and it provided several hours of relief each time and those periods grew longer. In the last week I've mostly prayed that vulnerable prayer waking up and before bed. I'm going into counseling due to emotional fragility caused by extreme verbal/emotional abuse growing up. I had some counseling while at UND, so I'm going back to the well.
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    What are we motivated by?

    I think motivation is tied very strongly to mental health. I go through differing motivations. 85% of the year, my motivation is strictly to "be grateful because I'm a blessed, lucky man." The other 15%, I'm just trying to get my head back above water because one of my triggers has surfaced and I'm miserable. For the record, I've recently turned a corner on that 15%--I was instructed by my priest to be more vulnerable in prayer. Instantaneous relief, and onset became less frequent by the week. Simply incredible. Now that's me, personally. As far as we as a collective society is concerned, we're not motivated by any one specific thing. We're motivated by selfishness, and that's a different thing from individual to individual. It's also the cause of many of our societal problems.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    There's just no chance Joe Biden beats Trump. Literally zero. How he can perform so underwhelmingly in the debates and still be the frontrunner is beyond me. The problem is, I won't even consider voting Democrat unless one of these underdogs has a seriously uprising and steals the nomination. I'd have said that I'd vote for Tulsi or Yang a month ago, but now that Yang is spouting of panic mode climate nonsense just to try gain some steam, I'm not sure I'd vote for him any longer. I won't vote Trump, but I won't vote for any establishment Democrat or radical SJW. Not gonna happen, and neither of those types of opponents will beat Trump. We need a wild card for a close election.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    For the record, religious and don't believe in contraception likely also comes with two stable, competent, consenting adults. It ain't religious folks draining taxpayers with unaffordable kids.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    Fucking without contraception should be a damn crime at this point. It's no longer just a pregnancy risk between two people.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    I say this being guilty of it myself at times, but no one individual is proof of truth or falsehood. I think we're in the same boat as far as our thoughts on personal accountability--I, for one, would bet every dime I have that most minimum wage workers will be just as broke at $15/hr as they are now because being broke is almost always a sign of poor spending habits, but I do not consider $12/hr a living wage. I'm 100% positive you are underpaid because the intellectual capacity you display on this forum indicates exceptional general competence and, finally, I'm not sure I view $15/hr a living wage either. The average person has more, often much more, than basic expenses. I make $17/hr and still scratch and claw in my strictly 40 hour week winter months
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    Not in a large city, no. It'd be impossible to pay off, but in rural America houses aren't massively overpriced like they are anywhere close to a concrete jungle. Problem is, it's hard to stay afloat when your utilities by themselves can triple or quadruple in the winter if your house isn't in good shape
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    That's not true. Yes, our housing is cheaper but we have more unpredictable variables in our expenses. For instance, our vehicles deal with much, much more varied weather. When the thermostat reads -fuckyou a good portion of the year, shit goes to hell faster. Same with our homes. If an individual doesn't have a propane furnace in their home, or very, very good insulation and windows paired with electric heat, their winter utility bill can be massive.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    $15 isn't even a living wage unless we're talking strictly basic needs. And even then, most people are so unfathomably stupid that by the time they join the working class, they've racked up massive credit debt and can't stay afloat. I like the concept of UBI Do away with other taxpayer funded public assistance programs and go with $1000-1500 UBI.
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    Who trades for Antonio Brown?

    If he comes back, somebody should just lay his ass out in practice. Preferably Burfict
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    Gun Control Poll

    I'll add comments to my answers when I can get to a computer. This is very well done, Thanatos. It's also exposing the truth of how much closer to similar thinking we all are on this issue.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    Most people it fulfills. As for fatherlessness, we need to raise our sons to be better men, and we need to raise our daughters to select better men. It has to start at the individual level or it'll never not be a problem.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    I meant it in the sense of family and children versus career and the illusion of freedom in the single life or childless life. There's much more freedom when direct purpose is present. The "happy" life depicted in pertual singledom is an illusion. Those people become aimless and lost.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    Stabilizing the American family stops with demonizing marriage. It starts with telling people a career is more rewarding to a family. It starts with encouraging people to accept, when young, that life has more purpose when one had a committed relationship and children. There's freedom in having a direct purpose every single day.
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    2020 Democratic Primary Race

    I understand your point but childhood trauma is so common. More common than people realize. I personally think we need to intercept these individuals when they're developing as awkward, socially inept, bitter, angry adolescents and teenagers.
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