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  1. Sarge

    Trump Regime thread.

    Maduro isn't going to play a game he can't win. I wouldn't worry.
  2. Sarge

    Handling Disrespect

    We also have to be careful of subtler forms of disrespect and aggression on the part of others. Examples: someone trying to get us to do free work/work for less than we deserve, requests that go against our values (if anyone asks, lie for me so I don't get in trouble), etc... I wrote this recently on Facebook and wanted to share it here: It is neither selfish nor immoral to negotiate for what we deserve. We must stop being afraid to "rock the boat" in order to "keep the peace." Why do we think being peaceful 100% of the time benefits us? It doesn't. We ought to grow some teeth and show them to the world once in a while. There is a nasty, sleeping monster inside of us. Let's feed it carefully, but let it play. Maybe then we will respect ourselves and require that others do the same. Being agreeable to the point of harming ourselves isn't morally righteous, nor is it going to make us "good" people . It's cowardice. Let's not use morality to excuse ourselves for being cowards! A good person is capable of anything and has the strength to use their darkness when they pursue what they want and need. We must not let anyone make us feel bad for looking out for ourselves. That doesn't mean be selfish. It means standing our ground in the presence of others who are. Aggressive and selfish people won't battle us if they think they can't win. They will go find the next pushover, because we can be sure that there is always a hopeless, hyper--agreeable person lining up to be abused. We will not let that be us any longer. Understand?
  3. Happy New Year, TGP! May we achieve the success we're working for in 2019. 

  4. Sarge

    Razor's QB Rankings 2018

    Is Brees going to have the best year ever by your metrics? Is the average score of the top 5 going to be the highest ever? All of this is to ask, do we exaggerate when we say we live in the age of the QB or do your numbers prove that to be true?
  5. Sarge

    Handling Disrespect

    I feel it is important to emphasize that it is not the person you have a problem with. It is their behavior. I thought in that specific scenario that my message would get through easier if I pointed out that she was a good person first. You are right that in other situations, it is better to simply state the issue. If I had only said, "I feel disrespected when people interrupt me. Please allow me to finish my conversation next time" she might have taken it the same way.
  6. Sarge

    Jags extend Bortles - 3YR, $54M

    We all agreed last offseason that the Jags should have broken the bank for Cousins. We nailed that one.
  7. Sarge

    Handling Disrespect

    I used to let people get away with disrespecting me. I found that while I personally didn't feel bad about it, this ultra-passive behavior also lowered my esteem in the eyes of others as well. And I think it hurt my chances in getting raises at work and getting a few women I was interested in. If I don't stand up for myself in the face of disrespect, other people shouldn't trust that I will stand up for them either, right? I recently started a new trick. I give people a compliment first before I bring up my valid complaint about their behavior. Here's a recent example with a secretary at work, with the Vice Chairman of the school board present, verbatim: "I consider you a fair and honest person. So I'm sure you understand that I mean no offense when I ask you to please not interrupt me when I'm in the middle of a conversation." It worked. Due to my giving her a stellar reputation to live up to, she had no choice but to immediately and emphatically apologize. I think I earned her respect as well as a feather in my cap from the big boss.
  8. I have 2 short, sweet questions I'd like to ask you, my friends. What's your first course of action when someone clearly disrespects you? Is there any way that you would like to improve your handling of disrespectful people? If so, how?
  9. Sarge

    Jags @ Bills

    Hot take: They were never as good as they looked last year, like Philly.
  10. Sarge

    Razor's QB Rankings 2018

    Is Brees on pace to have the best season ever in your rankings?
  11. Sarge

    Do you ever feel like...

    I'm so sorry to hear about all of this, especially you finding your dead friend. I can't even imagine what that's like. And yes life often does fuck us. You seem like a tough guy, so I don't think you'll be down long.
  12. Sarge

    Trump Regime thread.

    Everyone wants to be listened to. Nobody wants to listen. Me included. I'm really working hard on changing that. I invite you guys to try it as well. We have been shoved into this divisive way of debating each other. If you don't agree with literally everything I say, our current political climate suggests that I should treat you as my enemy and actively work against every idea and thought that you have (even if I strongly agree with other ideas of yours).This is failure in a nutshell. It obviously doesn't work. I want to try something different. I don't know everything, so I'd like to stop acting as if I do. My new goal is to see how your ideas and mine can work together instead of against one another. "My way or the highway" sounds good on paper or in a song... though it is not a long-term recipe for success or enacting real change. There doesn't have to be a winner or loser of every debate. Both sides of a debate can win. It's a helpful technique to start by saying, "Perhaps I am wrong. As I consider you an honest and fair person, I'd like you to at least consider the merits of my ideas. But first, what do you think?" Obviously anything remotely similar would do the same job. And when they tell you what they think, it's not the best idea to immediately consider how this thought or idea works against yours. That's our default setting... again, doesn't work. See if it's possible in some way that this idea can actually make yours stronger or more effective somehow. Ask for time to truly consider what the person said. If you still disagree in the end, you'll be in a better position to do it respectfully. If you do end up liking their idea, invite them to consider how yours can also make theirs better. This is how winning is done. An open-minded listener can usually disarm even the most aggressive "opponent." Showing someone that their ideas are at least useful in some way reduces the chances that they will relentlessly oppose you. Now I can already tell what some of you might be thinking. This isn't going to work. It's asking too much of people. It's a radical change. You might be right. I'd at least like the opportunity to find out. What do you say?
  13. Sarge

    Trump Regime thread.

    I think we can all agree that people of all sorts of political views are guilty of spreading so many lies that it gets hard to tell the truth apart from those lies. It's up to each individual to stop saying things that they know to be false. What a world it would be! That's not going to happen, sadly. I'm trying to get better at not getting snagged on the first headline I see and listening to my conscience when I read something. We shouldn't have to do that, but we don't really have a choice, do we? I wish more people would sacrifice, just once on a while, the need to be right in order to pursue the truth. I get it, I get it, nobody wants us to know the truth. The truth doesn't make money. How do we know that? We've never had truthful journalism to say whether or not it is profitable. Why don't we give it a try? Let's stop sacrificing the future by coming up with the most convenient way to cover our asses when we fuck up.
  14. Sarge

    Trump Regime thread.

    So what do we do about it?
  15. Sarge

    Better Call Saul Discussion

    I'd be interested in Jessie's life after the events of Breaking Bad.
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